It is my belief that within each person there is an extremely large
yet finite amount of energy. The quantity and quality of that energy is
different for each person. This energy has two distinct forms. All of
the energy within a person is in one or the other of these forms. For
our purposes, in this discussion the terms positive and negative will be
used. This energy pairing can go by other names such as, love/not love,
light/dark, creative/destructive, and even yin/yang.
The law of
conservation of energy states that energy can not be created nor can it be destroyed. It can only be converted from one form into another. This
is absolutely true of this energy that is within each of us. When we
are born, we start out filled from head to toe with love. We are
positive energy through and through. As adults this is seldom true
anymore. Why?
Believe it or not, the primary reason is due to the
fact that people in general do not attempt to create win-win situations
with each other. They literally do not care that the other person is
unhappy and do not see how it affects them. They simply look for
solutions to problems that will benefit them without care for how it
affects other people. They reason that it works for them so it must be a
good solution. There is more to the situation than that but most people
either are not aware of the rest or consciously ignore it.
Let's
look at what actually happens. We have a problem. Let's say that before
this issue comes up you and I each are completely full of positive
energy. We have never had a single negative experience. Then some issue
happens. For a time some of both of our stores of positive energy are
converted into negative energy due to our displeasure about this issue.
Now suppose, I come up with and cause to be implemented a solution that
works for me but not for you. I am happy and my negative energy is converted
back to positive. I am once again filled with positive energy. AND I
either do not notice or do not care that the experience is bad for you.
So
after this issue I am still full of positive energy and you are not.
You have frustration and resentment over how the issue was handled
especially since for you the issue itself may still be ongoing. Now when
you deal with issues with other people, you may not be willing to work
with them to solve problems due to your bad experience with me. You
definitely are not going to want to work with me to solve problems in
the future and if forced to, you are going to look for solutions that
work for you with no thought for how well they will work for me. And
that will lead to some of my positive energy being converted to negative
when the solution is not beneficial to me.
Then we will each go
from issue to issue with other people tainting each others' positive
energy with negative due to the "required" selfishness that we have each
pretty much learned from each other. It goes on and on getting worse
with each recursion until eventually there is nearly no positive energy
at all and we have the general state of things today with all the
hatred, violence and mistrust that we have all created for ourselves.
The
negative energy cannot be destroyed. There is no way to "get rid" of it
and you can not change the past. What you can do is take new actions,
make new choices and new decisions. Seek out win-win solutions in EVERY
circumstance regardless of how small it seems to you because you never
have any idea how much that thing means to the other person. Each time
the other person gets a win when dealing with you, they will be more
likely to want to work with you to create a circumstance where everybody
wins next time.
When you create a win for everybody involved some of
your stores of negative energy are converted back to positive. Do this
enough and your energy will approach the positive level it was at while
you were a child. Everyday life will become much like paradise. And has
it not been said that to enter the gates of heaven one must be as the
child?
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