Broken agreements pt2

No matter how hard you try, even when you have just the right amount of commitments in your life, you can not always keep every agreement you make. As we have discussed, ignoring commitments that you can not keep does not work. So what should you do?

There is a basic three step system for handling broken agreements that everyone should follow.  It allows for the highest probability of positive energy flow amongst all participants. These steps are simple yet magickal.

First, acknowledge to whomever that you had the agreement with, that it has been broken. This lets others know that you realize that a commitment has gone awry and that you are not planning to try sweeping it under the rug and moving on.

Second,  give a sincere and heartfelt apology for having broken the commitment. This does a couple of things. It shows empathy  for the feelings that you hurt and contrition for not having kept your word.

Third and most important, set future expectations regarding that commitment.  Options for that are recommitting, renegotiating, or perhaps stating that you are no longer planning on keeping that commitment.

Recommitting is stating that the thing you committed to is still important to you and you still intend to see it through.

Renegotiating is stating that something has changed. You might still be willing to see the commitment through to it's conclusion but some part of the agreement is going to have to change for that to be true. Either it is not as important to you now as it was before, or not as important as you thought it was. Or some facet of the world surrounding the agreement has changed to make it seem less important to you. It is at this point that you offer the other person or persons involved the opportunity to work with you in changing the agreement to be more inline with the current vision of things.

If you are not willing to recommit and you or the other parties involved are not willing to renegotiate then the only option left is stating that the commitment will go unfulfilled. This might seem like previously where we discussed ignoring a commitment. But it is not. We are directly confronting the circumstance and clearly stating our intentions. When we do this, the commitment at hand dissolves and the energy that is tied up with it returns to all parties involved.

So to recap. Make commitments in your life in moderation, balancing the pros and cons and look for the places in your life where new commitments will fit in with old ones.  Do your best to keep your word. But, when  an agreement has been broken do not despair. Simply acknowledge, apologize and set future expectations.

This pattern of behavior will allow others to see you as an honest, reliable, trustworthy and valuable addition to both their business and personal lives. And isn't that how we truly want things to be?
As always thank you for visiting me and see you next time.