Growing Pains

Improving your life is about moving forward. It is about recognizing that where you are is not where you want to be and then taking action to change it. But what about all of your friends and loved ones?  Won't they be left behind when you begin to go after your goals?

That depends on them. People that really and truly care about you should want you to do whatever it is that needs doing in order for you to be happy, even if that means them no longer being part of your inner circle.

The best option, if possible, of course, would be to grow together into your new life. It would be to discuss your plans and hopes and dreams and find a way to have them all work together for everyone involved.

But what if that is simply not possible? We all grow and change at different rates. You should not let those that you care about hold you back just as you would not want to keep them from achieving their goals.  But at the same time, do not hold any animosity or hard feelings towards them for not being in the same place in their life that you are.

People like to think that they will always be friends with the same people their entire lives. For most of us that simply is not possible. While we may start out on the same page with certain people, we have different thoughts and feelings based on how we choose to interpret everything that we experience. And over time we will naturally lose connections with some people and form new connections with others. While our thoughts and dreams and hopes resonate on the same frequency we will be together. Once they begin to resonate on different frequencies we spin in different directions until we each find new circles.

It is possible to remain close to those that you no longer resonate with.  But once this happens it is very difficult to see eye to eye anymore. And quite often conflict will arise, where there was none before.

Now, I am not talking about a group of people that all have the same overall goals, but each take different lengths of time reaching their personal goals.  I am talking about when a group of people become different enough that their eventual goals are no longer in line with each other.
Once this happens, as painful as it may be, you are usually better off wishing each other well and going your separate ways.

I must admit to being a bit melancholy  today, as I have done some thinking recently and realized that some people who for a very long time were on the same page as I, no longer are. While I am finding new ways to handle things they are still kind of committed to having certain old problems. I will be moving ahead. They may be staying behind for now. Perhaps in the future, we will hopefully catch back up to one another.