Most of us are constantly surrounded day in and day out by people. The world is full of them.Some we like, some we love, others we despise. The ones we don't like we often tend to know quite a bit about. We frequently make ourselves consciously aware of their likes and dislikes so that we can be avoid being like them.
One would think that we would naturally seek to find out what things those we love like and dislike. But often that is not the case. Oh, it might be, early on in the relationship, when we are struggling to get them to like us, but somewhere along the way that curiosity tends to fade and die out altogether. We find out what we need to know to get them solidly in our lives and then once we do, we move on to other pursuits.
We are constantly hit with all this data, especially from TV and news media about ourselves, how and what to do to take care of ourselves and make us happy. Advertisements focus on our enjoyment of life and how their products will make us feel and look. But, unless it's the holidays, they don't spend much time focused on how what they have to offer will make our families and friends happy.
In all fairness we do have to live with ourselves forever. There is no escaping oneself. But a large part of truly enjoying ones life comes from the happiness we can bring to others. It is joy shared that is joy multiplied.
It has been said that the most powerfully positive magickal word for a person to hear, is their own name. Now, this is just a guess, but I think you probably know the names of the five closest people in your life. But how often do you use it?
And what about other things that they like and care about?
Make a list of the five people that you are the closest to in your life. Attempt to answer these questions for each of them. No cheating. Do this simply from what you already know about those you care about and love.
What is their favorite color?
When is their birthday?
What is their favorite food? What is their least favorite?
Do they have a favorite drink?
What are their hobbies? What do they do to unwind?
What is one place they have never been but would like to visit?
What are their goals for the future?
What is the average airspeed velocity of an unladen swallow?(sorry. j/k couldn't help it)
Knowing yourself as intimately as you do, these should be easy questions to answer about you, but can you answer them as your friends and family would?
Don't worry, not knowing doesn't make you a terrible person. It just gives you the opportunity to learn more about your loved ones. I am not saying that you should spend all day everyday focusing on other people. Having you time is important as well. But don't you think you should spend at least some time showing those that you care about that what they want really matters to you? That they are just as important to you as you are to them?
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