Resistance is futile

The Borg. They are a recurring "alien" race on various Star Trek TV shows. These people are basically humanoid but have had certain hardware bonded to their bodies such that they are a truly fascinating amalgamation of flesh and technology. They are truly bio-mechanical beings that can easily survive in hostile environments that would kill most people. The Borg have existed for millenia and spend their time flying around the galaxy assimilating other races and technologies.

They have a hive mind and each individual that becomes part of the collective adds to their pool of knowledge and resources. So, they have the might and technological know-how of trillions of people collected over thousands of years. The Borg can operate for days on end without tiring, have no fear and can adapt almost instantly to any type of attack, preventing the same thing from ever working on them twice.

These people have nowhere else to be other than wherever they happen to be at the moment and can always focus their entire time and attention to the current goal. It is their belief that given enough time they cannot fail and will always overwhelm their opponents in the end. You may win a battle with the Borg, but you will not win the war. They know this because they have thousands of years of history showing this to be true.

So their catchphrase is that resistance is futile. They have more time, resources and knowledge than you. Eventually, you will either give in or die. And with very few exceptions they are right.

I think of this when people are resisting things that are happening in their lives. Some things can be avoided or deflected in other directions. Some things though are unavoidable, things like the passage of time, the death of a loved one, someone falling out of love with you or the loss of your job once the decision to cut you loose has been made. Resisting and or denying those things doesn't get you anywhere. It often makes you look foolish to others, never makes the situation better and often makes it much worse.

A few years ago, a friend of mine in Lifespring had a phrase that kinda stuck with me. He used to say what you resist persists. At first I didn't get it. But, after some thought it started to make sense. When we spend time and energy resisting something, an equal amount of time and energy somehow ends up getting put into resisting us back . Think about it.

If someone tells you that they want you to stop wearing black shoes and you want to wear black shoes, you will automatically resist their request. You may have ten other pairs of shoes that are not black, but suddenly the desire to wear any other color is gone. You will wear your black shoes because who are they to tell you what to wear? The other person will see your black shoes and whether they say anything or not, their energy towards you will change.

They will likely become hostile or even aggressive at times when there doesn't seem like any rhyme or reason for it. A completely unnecessary mini war breaks out between the two of you over why you should or shouldn't be allowed to wear your black shoes. The whole thing could be avoided by you simply wearing different shoes, or by finding out the reason for the complaint and maybe coming to some compromise. But when we put energy into defending a thing, we are signaling to others, even if we don't mean to be, that we want them to be aggressive. What we see as a thing intended to protect us from attack others often see as a request for an attack, a challenge if you will.

So, while just giving in isn't really a viable option neither is fighting. Resistance is futile. Its just like running from a bear. Don't bother. You will just die tired.