Ownership pt3

The Bible says that woman is supposed to be a helper to man. It implies that he is the leader and she the follower. But it does not say she is his slave. It does not say he is better than her. And in fact a great leader is also a servant to those he leads.

 Out of jealousy and fear of loss a man will say my wife cannot do this or that or see so and so.When a man tells a woman what she is and is not allowed to do he is being ridiculous. She was born just as free as he was. She can make whatever choices she wants.She is only with him because she chooses to be and she could choose not to be at any time.Here is a woman who despite all his faults has chosen to be with this man.

If she truly loves him, she will not do anything to cause him harm. And if she does they are better off not together. Being jealous simply tells one that they do not trust the other and in fact pushes that other further away. It hurts them and makes them more likely to do the very thing that you fear.

 None of us are slaves. We are all born free and remain free every moment of our lives. You do not own anyone or anything, not now, nor will you ever. And no amount of posturing, blustering, bribing or wheedling can ever change that.

Realize and accept that all of the people that are in your daily life are not really yours. They are each their own. You just happen to be traveling in the same direction together. Every moment that they spend with you is a privilege that can be revoked at anytime by you acting like a jerk and smothering them. There is something about you that they like otherwise they would not stay.

If you want to keep the relationships that you do have, focus on finding out what it is that they like and increasing it or decreasing the opposites. Show that you appreciate the fact that they choose to be with you. And unless you are doing it to in some way defend them, never ever stake a claim to a person as belonging to you. To people who don't know better you look like a control freak. To people who do, you look like a control freak and an idiot. The former will simply leave. The latter will leave and laugh at you.