My thoughts on "gay"

Society in general abhors abnormality or so we are led to believe.The LGBT community is out of the ordinary so we should hate them right? Well what about celebrities, people whose lives we celebrate. Their lives are abnormal. Why don't we hate all of them?

I am a heterosexual male. Many of my friends are either gay or bisexual. In my local group my preferences are abnormal. Should my friends tear me down for my choices? They are open and loving and accepting of my way of being just as I am of theirs. Having different sexual preference just means that we are not compatible sexual partners. We can still be good people and good friends.

My point of view, I realize is very liberal. As long as you aren't trying to enforce your way of being onto me and saying that I have to be just like you, I really don't care what you do behind closed doors. And I don't think anyone else should either. It's not like homosexuals are going to out breed the heterosexuals. So what's the problem?

Sure if everyone "chose" to become gay the world population would suffer and we would all eventually die out. But, that simply won't happen. No matter what is said or done, some people will always decide to have children. And remember, all of this started with just a single couple right?

Most of the gay bashing that I have ever seen or heard of has occurred out of fear. But fear of what? A rational, sane, logical person has nothing to fear from the homosexual community in general. Men that fear gays are often afraid of being raped by them. Now for an extremely small portion of the population, that might be a legitimate concern. But the person who would perpetrate this heinous crime would most likely still do it and have an easier time of it if they were straight. So, shouldn't that then be simply fear of a sexual predator and not fear of a gay person?

In my opinion, the only people who have any real fair reason to believe that homosexuality is wrong are those that subscribe to an organized religion whose holy scripture specifically declares that what these people are doing is wrong. For example, the Bible says that homosexuality is a sin. So, good Christians are required by their religion to be heterosexual AND to inform those who are not heterosexual that they are sinning.. The Bible does not however say that we should hate those who sin. It specifically says that we should love them even more and that through love and understanding they may come around to the "right" way. I don't really believe that last part, but it is in there.

Now on to the topic of choice. I say that being gay is not a choice, just as being straight is not a choice. I've heard and seen many times peer pressure being applied to a person to get them to be like everyone one else. I have often heard the phrase "well have you tried not being gay?" People who ask you to try being straight or not being gay are really asking you to pretend to like something that you don't, to be someone that you aren't.

I think an example here is in order. I am a carnivore. I can and will eat vegetables, sometimes and in limited amounts, but I do not like to.  I could go the rest of my life without eating any meat. I could. But I won't. I do not get enjoyment out of eating vegetables. Meat on the other hand I enjoy very much. Being a carnivore is a preference. I don't choose it. We don't actually choose our preferences They are just things that simply are..

Also, if I have a craving for pork, chicken or beef are not gonna cut it. Sure, they will sate my immediate hunger, but the desire for pork is not going to go away until I have pork. 

Sexuality is the same way. Being intimate with a man or a woman is a choice. Preferring to be intimate with a man or a woman is not a choice. It just is what you like. The only choice is what you do about that preference.

And last but not least, you have no right to even claiming what your preference is, if you haven't tried out the alternate options. If you have never had a tomato before, you don't know what it tastes like. Stating that you don't like tomatoes and doing your best to avoid them just makes you look foolish.

I tried being with a man sexually. I didn't like it. I think I could go for being a lesbian though.